I'm curious as to what you all think.
Here it is:
"If you could hear the top 10 nicest things anyone had ever said about you (not to your face, so these would be new things, you've never heard before), but along with them, you would also have to hear the top 3 meanest things anyone had ever said about you, would you do it?
My first answer was absolutely yes.
Secondhand compliments are probably my favorite things in the world.
It's like you know they're sincere if someone decided to say something nice about you to someone else--knowing you'd probably never find out.
And, as for the 3 mean things, well, I feel like I don't care enough about what other people think about me, to worry too much about those.
But the more I thought about it, the harder the question was for me to answer...
Earlier this month, a sort of distant family member accused me of something that I was totally and completely shocked by.
As hard as I tried to forget about it and realize there was nothing I could do about, I couldn't.
Whenever it was quiet and my mind had time to think, I was thinking about that conversation. I even had three full on nightmares about the conversation. A conversation that shouldn't have affected me so much. It really was silly--but the effects were real, none the less.
That's what jumped into my mind when I rethought my answer to my sisters question.
What if I thought I wouldn't care, and then those 3 things haunted me for months or even years?
Could the nice things counteract the mean?
I still don't know; what do you think?